Comments on Mapless: Embrace Change

Barbara - It's not always easy to let go and f...

2010-05-01T15:31:47.744-07:00

Barbara - It's not always easy to let go and face that things haven't turned out how we thought they would...but in the end if we can't do anything to change how things are, we have to adapt.

Still, some things are harder to work through than others...and I think the things you have dealt with are some of those things. So don't be afraid to grieve.

I am saving this post! This is perfect timing for...

2010-04-30T22:58:14.828-07:00

I am saving this post! This is perfect timing for where I am at today, this second. This is the perspective I want and need to keep being reminded of it constantly. Life is not at all how I imagined it would be and I am grieving some of my pre-conceived of ideas I had for my life and my son's. Good stuff as always, thank you!

Cindi - You are facing something that is uncharted...

2010-04-28T07:47:47.331-07:00

Cindi - You are facing something that is uncharted for most of us in the parenting realm. I can only say I understand because of my brother...but it's not the same as raising a child with aspergers.

I applaud your efforts to raise awareness and wish you all the peace and patience you need.

Sue - you are a busy girl! Change comes all at onc...

2010-04-28T07:43:13.398-07:00

Sue - you are a busy girl! Change comes all at once for you, and I'm always hoping that you are moving on to better things. Aren't you planning a move, too? Or is that on hold now?

I know you and I could have a colorful rant about the patriarchal thing....boy does it burn me some days.

Fortunately I'll just have one teenager for 2....

2010-04-28T07:40:26.831-07:00

Fortunately I'll just have one teenager for 2.5 more years. Then there will be two and one will be driving. Gah!

Some days I just have to stop and take a deep breath and think "OK what does any of this really mean for my life? Is it bad or good or uncertain?" Because I still find myself panicking about things that aren't really panic-worthy...just different.

Great post Erin! I'm currently embracing the ...

2010-04-27T23:25:06.011-07:00

Great post Erin! I'm currently embracing the change with my son and possibly my daughter too. I've learned a lot this past year as you know, and I've gone thru the whole spectrum of the grieving process. I'm now on the other side and I can safely say that looking back at this growth process, God had my back each agonizing step of the way. I can also say I'm a better human being and have been blessed to have this experience. I tend to be a complete butt in the face of those who don't understand and am dedicated to raising awareness. A year ago, I would've never thought I'd be where I am today. Life is truly a growing process isn't it?

Oh, it was good to read this. It's so good to...

2010-04-27T17:54:49.687-07:00

Oh, it was good to read this. It's so good to be able to lean on others like you through your words, get strength from them.

What change am I embracing? Well, at the moment, apart from starting to work from home and also entering into a new relationship all in the last six weeks, I have also come round the mountain once more back to issues of gender and patriarchy and religion and women. Back to where I have been sitting for the last several years and just ... it amazes me how we go away, come back, go away, come back, to the same sorts of things, and the same space but nowhere near the same space. This time for me it is a real deep and strong seeing of the ways I have taken those external cultural voices into myself and used them to silence myself. Me, the bigmouth opinionated one, is also so terrified and scared of not being the good cultural girl, of letting down the big cultural daddies, whatever they may be. I recognise that in myself as an old, old thing and I am watching with delight and some sort of miraculous amazement as slowly those things are being dismantled for good.

But oh, the process in-between. Of sitting on air, on uncertainty. That's why this post was so good to read this morning for me. Thanks, Erin!!! :)

I feel on the cusp of a lot. A teen in the house, ...

2010-04-27T17:51:44.520-07:00

I feel on the cusp of a lot. A teen in the house, two more a year away from the "teen" suffix in their age. Possible change in direction in career. An interesting educational opportunity coming up. Lots to be worried about. Lots to be excited about. Lots of baggage I am still sorting through, trying to figure out if I still want to carry it or not.

I hope I can be positive toward it all, and not "Hey! Get off my lawn!" We'll see.

Good post, Erin.