10.14.2007

WWJDWTC?

This is my post for the What Would Jesus Do With the Church synchroblog. For more information, see this post HERE. The concept is simple: decide on something you want to change in the church, and then take action on that change for 30 days. And write about it.

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I have struggled with this post, for it puts me in a huge discomfort zone. But first, a disclaimer. Every journey is different, and because of this, I want to emphasize that my post here is simply a stage in my journey. In no way whatsoever am I suggesting that this is a place other people should be arriving at, as well. Your journey is your own. Likewise, if you are a church-leaver like I, please don't feel abandoned by me...this is all baby steps, in due time.

Church is still a horrifying place for me. A place full of standards I cannot live up to, people who will judge me, or if they don't judge me, they will betray me. However, in recent months there has been an aching in me to move. It's as though I have been standing still for so long that I have developed overwhelming muscle cramps, and I must stretch now or fall.

There are many ways I need to stretch, but the one way I need to act is simple.

I need to go to church.

For some of you this may sound like a cop-out, for others, you might wonder how this action relates to the goal of this Synchroblog. However, any of you who know me know how huge this is; and my goal in this action is not to change the church by blessing it with my presence, and it's not about attendance at the institution.

Rather, this is about Jesus wanting to love on people and change lives. I have long ago abandoned the idea that Jesus' primary concern is salvation...His primary concern is sharing a Love which Transforms. For nearly three years, I have been participating in that mission in a variety of unchurch ways...but now I feel He wants me to participate in His mission in this way; not replacing the other ways, but in addition to them.

I don't know what the result will be, I don't know how long this will last or how I will feel...I am very uneasy about it on a human level, and very much at peace with it on a spiritual level. For the record, I do not intend to go to my previous church. I will share more about where I'm going once I've actually been there. To some of you, the answer to that will be obvious. It is, to be sure, No Ordinary Church.

I cannot explain what has brought me to this place. Maybe it is a feeling that I have moved beyond self-preservation and self-protection into selfish....where my healing has come so far that I no longer need to be solitary except out of fear...I fear the scab is not healthy enough to protect me from more pain. However, there is a sense of peace with the risk involved.

Almost three years ago, I spun a cocoon...a place to safely hide while God changed me from something creepy-crawly to something with wings. Months ago, I felt this chrysalis begin to crack open and the winds of change blow on me. For weeks, my wings have been drying in the sun, and now I fell a call into the wild, to spread my wings and try to fly. Somehow, I no longer feel this flight path to be a box or a prison...it feels more like an updraft.

So for a month, 30 days, I will release the fear of falling, stretch out my wings and try to fly.

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Update 1: My Week 1 Post
Update 2: My Week 2 Post
Update 3: My Week 4 Post

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WWJDWTC Participants:

Glenn Hager
Gary Means
Alan Knox
The Refuge
Nate Peres
Sally Coleman
Barb
Rick Stillwell
Jeff Greathouse
Dan
Barbara Legere
Jonathan Brink
Jason Ellis
Rainer
Cynthia Clack

If you are participating in this event but are not listed here, please leave the link to your post in the comments and I'll add you to the list. I'll also be updating the listed blog-links with post-links as they become available.

52 comments:

  1. Thanks Dan - since you have several blogs in your profile I wasn't sure which one to link.
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  2. Erin:

    Here is my direct link to the article at hand. I want to thank-you for doing this and the challenge.

    http://jeffgreathouse.blogspot.com/2007/10/wwjdwtc.html
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  3. And here's a link to mine:
    http://poorinspirit.blogspot.com/2007/10/wwjd-with-church-synchroblog.html
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  4. Erin, I did something at the last minute:

    http://barbara007.typepad.com/prodigal_daughter2/
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  5. looks like the tail end of my url got cut off.

    Beyond the "ch" it's:
    church-synchroblog.html
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  6. oh sure, now it shows up. Erin, feel free to delete this comment and its predecessor.
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  7. I'm so proud of you , Erin.
    You are very brave..

    I remember a point in my healing, after my husband left...that God showed me where I had begun to take on the identity of "Wounded One". I had to give up my connection to that, which was hard. I felt justified in being that persona, yet God challenged me to greater healing...to wholeness.
    So I left that behind...and it's been a major relief.

    When I urged you to try church, it wasn't because I though you needed to go..but because you need to see how far He has brought you.
    You are an amazing person.:)

    I didn't participate in the challenge, cause I have no idea what to try...
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  8. Che - Thanks so much for your encouragement. I appreciate you!
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  9. Erin,

    Thanks for getting this started and for linking to my post. It will be interesting to see how God uses you and the relationships that you make with other believers.

    -Alan
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  10. yep, I know this is huge for you...I'm here if you need me! Would one of those leashes for kids work on Sunday...if you get the urge to bolt I could hold you in???? I don't see leaving as a problem, once you get your feet in the door you will know you are home.
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  11. Here is mine.

    http://jonathanbrink.com/2007/10/15/wwjdwtc-synchroblog/

    Thanks for starting this.
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  12. Erin,

    Jeffs link is missing the "l" in html
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  13. Alan - I'm not going to take credit for this because it was mostly Glenn's idea, but I'm glad we have so many participating.

    Thanks for the encouragement.
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  14. Donna - You crack me up. No promises, but I'll be there. However, just because I am doing this as a personal challenge doesn't mean we don't still have a deal about your "thing".
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  15. Jonathan - Thanks for being involved, and thanks for the heads-up about Jeff's link. I fixed it.
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  16. Erin- First, thanks for taking my raw idea and making it something much better for this synchroblog. Second, I'm looking forward to seeing where those wings take you. Just having wings is something of beauty and a sign of grace and healing!
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  17. Glenn - Thanks for suggesting this endeavor. I am sure it's going to be interesting.
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  18. Oh and just a general note - I'm under the weather today with a cold...I am trying to mostly rest, so I might not get around to everyone's posts until later today or tomorrow...please don't think I'm ignoring you, but I'm a mommy and I can't afford to be sick any longer than I have to be ;-)
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  19. Traitor!!!

    I'm just kidding :-) - if you feel you should go to church, go!

    I hope you'll blog about how it goes and I hope it will do whatever you're hoping it will do for you. Or maybe something good you didn't even anticipate.
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  20. excellent post Erin- this reallly challenged me!
    My post is now finally up!
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  21. I hope you go back to church ... only as long as you realise that it's not somewhere that you go, when you attend one of those square boxes and sit down and stand up and sing and listen to another person give a sermon etc. WE are the church; the Sunday morning meeting is something that some parts of the church do, but it's not church itself (thank God).

    Okay, I'll stop nagging at you now. I just think it's really important to have those distinctions clearly in mind so that we're not so swayed by everything that goes on there.

    Personally, I don't imagine I'll ever go back to a Sunday morning meeting. I don't find life there. But then again, if Life asked me to go to a Sunday morning meeting ... well, that's a whole differnet thing, isn't it :)
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  22. Helen - Yeah I know. I'm gonna take heat for it. ;-)
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  23. Thanks Sally - I got your link.
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  24. Hey Sue - I do agree with you and I understand what you are saying. The last 3 years for me has been a journey of learning the difference between church and Church. I'm hopeful that I won't confuses the two again.

    I appreciate your nagging, but I do think Some Voices nag louder. And this is just an experiment.
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  25. hey sorry the refuge is tardy. i'll email you when it's up, later tonight. we have had all kinds of computer woes.

    ps: erin, enjoyed your post. i think it's great you're listening to what God is leading you to and just taking your time, doing it for you. just one wing flap at a time.
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  26. That's OK Kathy...I'll keep an eye out for your post.

    Thanks for the kind words.
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  27. well it's not midnight yet!
    the refuge's post is up here.
    http://blogtherefuge.blogspot.com/2007/10/what-would-jesus-do-with-church.html.
    tomorrow i will look forward to reading all the blogs that participated. thanks, erin, and everybody for their great thoughts.
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  28. Stumbled across this blog - and this topic - yesterday...

    So, I figured I would add my two cents worth to the conversation here:
    http://oddideas.com/?p=86
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  29. Rainer - Hey, welcome. Glad you wanted to participate! I'll check out your post as soon as I can, but I did add you to the list.
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  30. Hi erin,

    I am starting an emergent cohort in Portland. Mike Clawson mentioned that you might be interested in coming/helping... ?

    Anyway, shoot me an email or blog comment and let me know if you'd like me to add you to my email list to keep you informed.

    Peace!
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  31. Ok, I didn't want to do it. God wouldn't let me alone. Here's my post:

    http://cynthiaclack.wordpress.com/2007/10/16/wwjdwtc/
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  32. Erin, I applaud your courage in your decision to visit church again. I know that you have been deeply wounded by the institutional church. I would imagine that your visit(s) will trigger some unpleasant or even downright painful internal reactions.

    I think another reason this is a huge thing is the fact that you have been vocal about being one of the unchurched. So to go to church might make you feel as if you are being inconsistent or violating your principles. I know that you have received some good-natured kidding because of that. But I think that everyone respects the fact that your decision comes from listening to the Voice of the One. It's also cool that you have been very clear that this is your decision for you, and not your mandate for others. You've handled this quite nicely.

    May God guide your steps. May He give you wisdom, healing, and grace as you engage in this bold experiment.
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  33. I hadn't even thought about me getting out of my commitment!!! HA But I think there will be a problem as it now looks like it will be the Sunday you are in Seattle....you might get out of it!!
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  34. And I hope you feel better soon!!!
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  35. Cyndi - Got your link. Thanks!
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  36. Gary - I was going to kiddingly say "turns out you're right and I'm wrong"...but the truth is I know you understand and I appreciate it.

    You voiced something I have thought about...losing my "unchurched" status is a real 180 for me and for my writing. I don't know what God's got in mind for that...we'll have to wait and see.

    Thanks for being a friend.
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  37. Donna - All this and now I'm not going to get to be there? What the heck?!
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  38. Good to know. :)

    The purpose of going to church is only to fellowship really. Well, to praise/worship and listen to His Word is also important, but not necessary in a church.

    God didn't make us to be isolated from the people around us. Sure, there's Internet, but it's a whole lot different than meeting people and talking to 'em, share personal thoughts and whatnot.

    The current church I go to, I don't quite like it either. Fellowship is quite minimal there, and I also attend another church at the end 'cuz I know the people there too. But it's central in one's growth in/with God. Over the years, one can notice tremendous growth, not only with oneself, but also others. ;)

    Well, of course, one must learn how to let go of whatever imperfection the church or an individual may have. It's part of earthly life anywayz. :)

    All the best!
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  39. I love how following Him is sometimes counter-intuitive, sometimes seemingly turning and going back the way we came - even though it turns out it's nowhere near the way we came.

    Me, I'm not quite there yet in terms of being able to go back to a Sunday morning meeting. The blood still drains from myself at the thought. Which, of course, says more about me than anything else :)

    I look forward to hearing about your experiences, Erin. It's amazing how many people are coming to the same conclusions you are.
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  40. KE - I think you touched on something I've been learning...church really is about the people and the relationships.
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  41. Sue - I absolutely understand where you're at. If you had asked me a couple weeks ago I still would have said I was NEVER going back. I don't think it's something we can bring about ourselves...and it's not meant that everyone go back...it's something that must be inspired in us. This is what has happened for me.

    I don't know where this process will take me, I don't even know if I will go for longer than the 30 day experiment...because it gives me the heebie-jeebies. We shall see.
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  42. hey erin. i know what a big step it is for you. i'm here for you too... allllll the way down here, but here nonetheless!
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  43. Thanks so much Cindy...you could be on the moon and you'd still be a good friend :-)
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  44. hey erin,
    we have only met through our friend kathy e, so greetings!
    i find it so interesting that while we all acknowledge that life dynamic, a journey, somehow faith is usually spoken of in terms of certainty, or as if what i believe or need now is it for ever.
    i like the idea of trying church, but of course going to church is not the same belonging to community. but for you, it is clear that is what needs to happen, for now. love that....
    karl, the refuge
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  45. Hey Karl - Thanks for stopping in. I believe this is the beginning of a transition for me back into community...I think that is something which will happen in stages, but setting foot back in a church is a first step.
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